Thursday, March 21, 2013

Saturday, March 9, 2013

Communication 

We talked the communication between a family. An example of poor communication between a husband and wife, when one of them share their daily life, they would usually pretend they are really listening and react as "Really?","Oh", "Um" these kind of words. Last night, my roommates shared their experience. She was giving a talk in sacrament meetings, after that, a guy came and said to her that her talk is so good and inspiring. But when my roommate asked what did he learn, he couldn't say  anything. This is what we call "faker". We were asked to write down how to improve communication, I wrote down listen more,practice more, another way to improve communication is by being clear. Make sure you understand what you want to say before you start stay positive, phrase your ideas and suggestions in a positive, rather than critical way. And the last one is listen actively, make sure you understand what the other person is trying to say. And see if you got it. Do not get so preoccupied planning what you will say next that you do not pay attention. And the second question is what communication impediments do I need to avoid, I wrote down don't be afraid to ask them to repeat, don't try other corrections,it is tempting to play armchair speech therapist and say "slow down" or "take a deep breath"; this does not actually help, and often only makes the person nervous, which aggravates the problem. And the last one is don't finish sentences, unless you are in a romantic relationship so close that it's cute when you finish each others sentences, someone with a speech impediment would prefer to get the words out on their own. You wouldn't want someone second-guessing your thoughts.

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